An Open Letter to Kids Who Want to Be Strong at Everything and Weak at Nothing

Dear Kids:to become a little bit stronger every day, every
I'm a former teacher who spent 17 years teachingweek, every month, all year long, would you have
physical education and coaching various sports. I'mlots of respect for that person? Would you be
also a father who has two adult age kids - to meinclined to listen to that person's advice, and follow it
they're still kids just like you will always be to yourbecause you know it'll make you stronger? In the
Mom and Dad.long run, could an adult like this even turn out to be
Bad, but Never Weakyour friend?
One way or the other, in my sixty years, I've knownEvery Day, Week, Month
lots of kids and I confess that I've never met evenLet's take this conversation in a little different
one who wants to be weak at anything. I've metdirection. Do you know any kids who make a
lots of kids who will tell you they want to be bad,practice of growing a little stronger every day, every
but never one who wants to be weak. Every kid I'veweek, every month, all year long? If someone
ever known wants to be strong (independent andactually did that, starting at a young age, right on into
adult-like) at everything and weak (dependent andadulthood, can you imagine just how strong that
child-like) at nothing, and I presume you're noperson would actually become? If you did that
exception to the rule.starting at a young age, can you imagine how strong
Strong Kidsyou'd be? Can you imagine how confident you'd be?
In that light, I've also noticed that the kids who areCan you imagine how unique, how interesting, and
really strong at lots of things are also confident, andhow cool you'd be?
they have no need of being pretentious about muchWhat's Important to You?
of anything. They know who they are, and they'reI guess the important question now is, "What's really
generally happy with that.important to you?" Given the opportunity, in what
Weak Kidsways would you like to become strong? Would you
On the other hand, kids who feel like they're weak inlike to have a strong body that allows you to run
various ways, usually lack confidence and they oftenfast, jump high, move quickly from side to side, climb
feel the need to pretend to be tough, defiant, andropes, mountains, etc? Would you like to have a
yes BAD. These kids feel threatened by otherstrong mind with which you can think, calculate,
people, especially those who are different fromunderstand, read, and write creatively and
them, and they hide behind all kinds of self erectedproductively? Would you like to have a strong spirit
walls and fences, including the way they dress, wearthat gallops to the top of the hill each morning, mane
their hair, the music they listen to, and the way theyand tail flowing in the breeze, rearing up, silhouetted
interact with their parents, teachers, and peers.against the horizon in which your mind and body
The Antidotemerge and express your admiration and appreciation
These same kids still want to be strong atto Mother Nature? God? Life?
everything. But their feeling of weakness inhibits theirRelentless Persistence, the Key of Keys
ability to explore new possibilities because they'reIn order to experience life at this level, you must first
scared of failing and being humiliated in front of theirrecognize that you can become a little stronger
friends. It's much safer and easier to be able to claim,every day, every week, every month, every year,
"I didn't try." At least there's a viable excuse forfor many years running. You must also recognize that
failure, and some degree of cool is maintained. Theyou can progress regularly, if you take small bites,
antidote of course is to start young and help thesedesigned to continually reignite your motivation,
kids learn to become strong at all kinds of things.resulting in a lifelong pattern of Relentless Persistence.
Under these conditions the walls and fences ofFinally, you must recognize that through Relentless
pretension are never erected.Persistence, almost any goal can be reached by
A Friend?almost anyone who wants to be strong at
Now let me ask you a question. If you knew an adulteverything and weak at nothing. Carpe diem!
- a teacher or a parent - who would help you learn