Understanding Parenting

Parenting is a great experience of joy, laughter andthat you are unwilling to do as parents. In other
fun as it helps one to passionately re-live andwords, as a role model it is important to teach what
experience wonderful moments of childhood. But it isyou as parents preach.
demanding as well and even more so with lack ofSometimes, as parents, how do you feel when you
certain skills.tell your child to do something which you are not
If parents choose to help their child with emotionaldoing yourself? Now just imagine for a moment how
development and life skills such as love, trust,the child would react knowing that you, as parents,
confidence, self esteem, empathy alongside theirare asking them to do something that you are not
education, then it might be useful for the parents todoing? Because remember that you as parents are
continuously enhance their knowledge and skills tothe source of inspiration for your child.
fulfil their obligation in a much more resourceful way.Would you like your child to think they can do things
As parents, one is seen as the immediate role modelrather than see them as huge obstacles?
by the child. A child feels secured when their parentsAs parents, the way you talk, behave and act will
understand their feelings through the connection ofhave a significant influence on your child. In other
love which establishes trust in the child's mind. Thewords, you, as parents, are being emulated by your
child becomes more comfortable and is open tochild and your child will simply like to do those things
express his feelings in times of discomfort.that they see you doing on a daily basis. However
Consequently, the child uses those lessons as a basisthere are certain things that your child has to do
of reference to build relationships with others.which you, as parents, ought to reinforce and ensure
But how often do you feel, as parents, that youthat they do. Therefore it is important for the parent
really want to enrich the lives of your child withto let the child do whatever they are passionate
proper nutrition/skills but you feel that you are limitedabout and have a real interest in.
in resources or just feel helpless in coping with certainRewarding and celebrating the moments with your
demands or attitude of your child?child
Looking for ways to teach these skills to yourMany parents are so engaged in their daily routines
children that are fun and engaging?and very often they take little things for granted and
The reason could well be literacy skills. However,even forget to reward a small action. It is important
reading a good book passively on life skills andto note that these little things make a huge
emotional development is just potential knowledge.difference to a child. In other words, when a child
Applying these skills to deal with challenging situationstakes action and does well, it is paramount to reward
with children is what counts. For example a child'sthe child as it motivates the child and make him/her
misbehavior may be addressed by making themfeel important and confident too to take more action
aware of the consequences without the parentsnext time. This small reward starts building a good
being too harsh or negative. But if parents are neithermetaphor in the mind of the child that every time he
reading any book nor willing to make a mental shiftdoes something well, he will get a treat or a word of
to acquire more skills, then the likelihood of givingencouragement. It is the small or little things done on
some of the life basic learning skills could bea consistent basis daily turn out to become a big
challenging at the early formative stage to their child.thing.
As a result, Kidz4Mation has created a series ofWe as parents are human beings after all and not
developmental resources in the form of easy tohuman doing and deep inside we are children. As a
follow children's books which may be easily read byresult, as parents, we have to motivate ourselves
parents to their child. The books can help teach coreand then take care and motivate our children and
values and skills in helping to raise happy, positive,encourage them to be self reliant and take their
well-balanced, well-rounded and successful children.decision within limit. We, as parents, should not be
These picture books include notes for parents andover protective or too possessive nor too much in
children respectively to develop the theme or skill incontrol over them.
discussion.At this point, it is good to know that learning to
In addition the following skills could be useful tips tochange ourselves, as parents, and taking charge of
make parenting easier for parents:-our lives and managing our emotions will help us to be
Availability - Gift of time is biggest gift parents canmore resourceful to manage our children and have a
give a child because a child wants time and love notgreat relationship with them.
money from their parents.Self-reliance
Acceptance - This requires great courage fromWhile nurturing a child, it is helpful that you, as
parents but accepting the children as they are canparents, make your child become self-reliant from an
help you, as parents, in keeping them happy. Howearly age and instill in him all the virtues through the
important is it for parents to put child needs aheadconsistent effort of habits creation on a daily basis.
of theirs and therefore learning to be selflessThis will enable the child to start shaping his
parents?personality traits and lead to build and have his own
Appreciation - This is something that everyoneidentity. This will also gradually help him to realize
craves for. All human beings want approval. It is verywhat they really like to do. Obviously all these are
important for you as a parent to appreciate childrenpossibly easier to achieve through constant support
publicly and criticise privately. Children oftenfrom parents and a lot of patience and perseverance
misbehave because they want attention from theiris required from parents to hand hold the child.
parents. Parents have to be assertive within limits,In other words, self reliance will lead to make the
and ensure that the appreciation is appreciated!child become independent from early childhood and
Like to develop more gratefulness in your children?he will probably be in a good position as adult where
Teaching what we preachhe will probably be better equipped to take
Parents would always want to do the right thing forresponsibility. As the saying goes, "it is better to
their children. However, there are things that parentsteach a child how to catch a fish, instead of giving
do not do as a result of procrastination orhim a fish'. This is a basic philosophy that teaches the
indifference. But parents would love their children tochild how to manage on his own as he grows and
develop good habits. But most of the times it isalso for the rest of his life whereas by just giving a
challenging to get certain children to do certain thingsfish, he will not be able to survive on his own.